If your relationship is not full of sex, you will be happy to know that you are not alone! According to recent surveys there are millions of people who are in a sexless relationship. A sexless relationship is defined as having sex no more than 10 times per year. If you are in a relationship that is lacking in sex, you need to start fixing things before it is too late. Following are two tips to help you get back on track.
Figure Out Why You Are In A Sexless Relationship
Everyone is different and has their own reasons for not wanting sex. However, there are some common reasons including not being satisfied with sex life, loss of attraction, body image issues, and emotional issues such as anxiety or depression.
Men and women can also have different reasons that are unique to them. For instance, women may feel disconnected emotionally from their partner and therefore disconnected sexually. A woman who doesn’t experience orgasm during sex (which is very common) may not see the benefit of having sex and eventually stop wanting it all together.
A man, on the other hand, may be experiencing erectile dysfunction and not want to address the issue so he stops having sex instead. He may also have certain needs in the bedroom that are not being met and may not feel like engaging in sex unless he gets to fulfill those needs.
This is just a short list of why a sexless relationship may be occurring. Sometimes there is no answer. Sometimes a person does not know why they don’t want sex. In cases like this it is important to go to a doctor and see if there is a medical issues that is occurring, which is slowing down sex drive. For instance, some women have low levels of testosterone which affects their body is many ways, including low sex drive.
The point is that in order to find a solution you have to find a cause. This will require that you and your partner sit down and have an honest communication about how you feel. It may be uncomfortable at first, but it will be a better choice that what the road ahead holds for your relationship if you do not sit down and have this discussion.
Fix The Issue
Once you figure out the ‘why’ of your sexless relationship, you need to fix that issue before you can move on. Many people understand why they do not want to have sex but do not take action towards fixing the issue. You cannot move forward to a healthy sex life if you do not put the work in and take action – it just doesn’t work like that.
There may be no motivation to make you or your partner take action. If you do not have any urge to have sex and do not feel connected to your partner then why would you want to go out and put effort towards fixing the issue? The answer is because it will benefit you in all areas of your life.
There are so many benefits of sex that you cannot afford to sit back and take no action. Research has shown that regular sex affects every single part of your body.
Mentally, sex benefits you by being a natural stress reliever. In addition, if you are pain, then sex really is your cure. Just before climax, endorphins are release, and these have the same effect as opiates which trigger morphine receptors in the brain.
Other benefits include:
- More self confidence
- Better digestion
- Healthier heart
- Healthier skin
- Better circulation
- Fewer infections
- Sick less often
And of course a healthy sex life in an intimate relationship benefits the relationship outside of the bedroom as well. Trust and communication are increased (two huge aspects of a healthy and happy relationship). And you start to see your partner in a new light from all that trust and communication – a positive light! You become more patient, understanding and loving towards your partner, and they become the same way towards you.
As you can see, there are many reasons to seek out help for your sexless relationship. You cannot ignore the benefits that a healthy sexual relationship has to offer you, and if you are in an intimate relationship, why wouldn’t you want to experience that? In the end, if you are in a sexless relationship then it is time to sit down and communicate about why you are there before time runs out and you have no desire to communicate anymore. The only way to find a solution is to be honest with each other, so don’t hold anything back! There is no right or wrong reason for losing sexual drive, but there is a way to fix any reason that you or your partner has.