For some, meeting and attracting girls just seems to come naturally. They have a presence about them that women are just naturally attracted to. They are not born chick magnets. They just simply know what makes women tick and what they are attracted to.Many guys suffer from self-esteem issues, which repel girls rather than attracting them. Others are just shy and lack the confidence required to attract the girls they want. Some guys do not know how to act socially and are just awkward. Which one are you? Why can’t you attract the girl you want rather than just sitting alone at the end of the bar?
It is not just a case of the proverbial black cloud
The main roadblock to attracting girls is lack of confidence. You have to learn to love yourself before you can ever expect anyone to love you, much less be attracted to you. Confidence is the number one attraction magnet. Girls want an alpha male who knows what they have to offer and takes charge of situations. Women love strong, confident men. It is really a primal instinct. The more you exude confidence the more girls will be attracted to you.
Confidence comes from within, but is displayed physically. Hold your head up higher as you walk past. Though it may feel more comfortable, don’t slouch. Put your shoulders back a little and puff your chest out. Not too much, it’s a subtlety. Unconfident men avoid eye contact. Don’t be afraid to look into a girl’s eyes as you walk on past her. When walking, don’t look down at your feet. Instead, look forward like you are about to conquer the world. These are the physical attributes that women are attracted to, even more than 6-pack abs.
First impressions are very important
The first impression a girl gets of you is in the split second she first sees you. If you want her to be attracted to you, you should make a good first impression. To make a good first impression you should dress nicely. Don’t go out in public wearing a shirt with holes in it and a pair of jean shorts. Show you respect yourself by looking put together and taking pride in your appearance, women will notice. You don’t have to be a GQ model, but having a sense of style is very important, even if it is your own style.
Okay, by now you are exuding confidence and dressing nicely, which will get the girl’s attention. Now it is time for you to hold it. Not just hold it, but grab it with both hands and not let go. This is done by witty intelligent conversation. The first few minutes of conversation can make or break the deal. You do not have to be a Rhodes Scholar, but you should try to engage in some form of intelligent conversation. Start off the initial conversation with something witty and attention grabbing, and then go from there. Make sure to ask her some questions about herself and seem interested in her brain as well as her body.
Communication is essential in keeping a girl attracted
You need to be proactive and lead the conversation, but it should not be one way. Make sure and ask her questions about her interest, hobbies, etc. Do not just nod your head every few minutes either. Instead, make some witty banter and point out similar interests. Good communication is imperative in attracting girls.
The worst thing you could do is seem boring or like a stick in the mud. Women love a sense of humor, so do whatever is necessary to make her laugh. Girls love a happy guy who is in a good mood. Happiness is an obvious sign of confidence. Making a girl laugh and smile will ensure they will always want to be around you.
Dare to be different and show your own unique personality
You do not want to blend in and be like everyone else. Women like a man who stands out in a crowd and effortlessly commands attention. This again goes back to confidence. Women want the alpha male, not an acquiescing follower.
Finally, have some girls in your circle of friends. This shows them your comfort level around women and that you have traits that other girls admire enough to be friends with you. Showing how great you are with other girls will make the girl you want that much more attracted to you. Following these tips will lead to massive results and you will be attracting girls in no time. Being confident, making eye contact, and having a good appearance will lure them in. Having a sense of humor and being pleasant to be around will keep the attraction burning. Just remember, women want to be around someone who makes them happy.